MARRIAGE; The pathway to success/pathway to destruction by Olabanji Joel

If you want to be great in life, marry someone who support your dreams, he or she might not have the same vision with you at first but flexibility to make your dreams theirs and to make theirs yours should be considered so that the vision won't be dead even before it start. It's better to remain single than to marry wrong.

Behind great men, there are great women and vice-versa.



The saying that love is blind is an archaic statement which doesn't apply to the kind of world we live in anymore, if you fall in love with the wrong person, call  your sense to order  and fall out of the love so that your dreams can  come to reality.

I started being very sensitive about relationship and marriage when the wife of Omoyele Sowore stood strongly by him when he was illegally detained by the Nigerian Government, his wife wasn't known before but ensured the release of her husband by using all the opportunities she had. My sensitivity to marrying right increased after seeing various homes with their issues and various homes with the way they have strongly made it by being with the right person for them.Pastor E.A Adeboye's statements during his wife's birthday this year touched me and I prayed to God to give me someone who will support me always. Dr. Akinwunmi A. Adeshina on Twitter expressed his appreciation to his wife as she has been his rock making him achieve all he has achieved. 



Love is not blind, it sees with spirit, soul and body, to be intentional about the kind of partner one want in life isn't too much to do, it's an important aspect of one's life that should never be underemphasized.

While I understand that all qualities might not be seen during dating and courtship, the warning signs at times should not be ignored, no one should go into a relationship because of peer pressure or pity, even if already in a relationship, never hesitate to exit when the warning signs are being revealed so as not to live in everlasting regret.

Support is needed for dreams to be accomplished, so what happens when the support is lost from one's life partner? What happens when such partner does not like some members in your family and even your friends who have supported you even before you met him or her? Take note when you have a boyfriend or girlfriend who doesn't like seeing people around you, well, you can choose to ignore that if you don't have a big dream, but if you have a big dream and you understand that men are needed to get it accomplished,I suggest you end the relationship and move on. No lady want to marry a poor man and no man want to marry someone who will become a burden, success in that path chosen is important and support is needed.

Finally, never force a relationship with someone who gives signs of being tired or mistrust and never intend to change anyone after marriage because this has proven not to work in many homes over time, change is personal, anyone who want to be with you would have shown signs of changes during courtship, they will be intentional about the change and will genuinely change, if it's not possible before marriage, it is mostly impossible too during marriage. 

NEVER IGNORE THE WARNING SIGNS!

Inspired by the post from;

Dr. Akinwunmi A. Adeshina (Re-elected African Development Bank President).

Written by Olabanji Joel

A Nurse, Writer and a Socialist.

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