ARE YOU STILL A MOTHER OR YOU HAVE LOST YOUR VIRTUES? By Olabanji Joel

Yearly, we celebrate women in several ways starting with the international women's day to mothering Sunday to several mothers' day and I see almost all those who has given birth celebrate themselves and sometimes get celebrated.

But, are these celebrations only meant for those who has given birth? Or do some people possess what it takes to be celebrated? 

Motherly care is an important virtue needed for the growth of everyone. Through these cares, we acquire our fundamental life values on which we build other values we acquire while growing. Motherly care is beyond pampering, it entails proper discipline, training, guidance, tutelage, sacrifice and all virtues needed to be exhibited for a child to be moulded into the best form and for a home to stand but do we still have these virtues in you as a woman?

We are living in a decaying community where moral seems to be on a long term vacation, the wrong has become the norm, the right has been perceived to be foolishness and indecency rules. Values and culture which should have been learnt while growing are nowhere to be found, disorderliness has become the order of the day, immorality has taken over our systems, an evident opening in the fundamental impartation could be vividly seen and the effects are all over the corruptible world.

Oooooh, DO WE STILL HAVE MOTHERS OR SHOULD I SAY PARENTS? - Focusing on mothers today.

To you ma, I know you are a good mother, you train your children in the way of the lord, you give them the best, you have sacrificed and still sacrificing for them, you want the best for them and you pray for them to be the best but, do you show the compassion of a mother to the children of others who are with you or around you? Are you sure you are not a self centred mother who only cares about her children? For your information, if you are just after your children, they might become great as you desire but those you have left uncared for will come back to forcefully demand for what you could have peacefully offered them while they were young, you won't enjoy peace and your children will not be allowed to sleep well at night. Therefore, while you give your children the best motherly care, also care for those around you within your capacity, make the children of others free to call you a mother, show them love and support, in your own capacity, do what you can so that even when other communities are falling due to failure from homes and community residents, your community can be at peace and you can be rest assured that you have done your part according to what you are capable of and then you can enjoy your peace and the success of your children. 

Mothers, how do you treat those working for you? What do you give to them to eat and how do they feed? Can they eat on the same table with your children or don't deserve to eat with you? Are they less of being humans because they are working for you? What sort of training are you giving to those living with you? Do you treat them as slaves? Can you sternly say it was your best you gave them? Or they literally ate your crumbs?

Can children who are not your biological children genuinely call you mummy?

Have you through your actions become a mother to someone else's child?

Have you genuinely shown love to those children who are not likely to repay you?

Are you not a person who just want your children to grow even at the detriment of other children?

Are you not in quest to put your children at the top bringing down other children?

HOW MANY PEOPLE COULD CALL YOU A MOTHER?

PLEASE ARE YOU STILL A MOTHER OR YOU HAVE LOST YOUR VIRTUES?!

By Olabanji Joel.

A Nurse, Writer and a Socialist.

Edited by:

Omojowogbe Taiwo