Banky W and Adesua; Pressures of Life and lessons to be learnt. Written by Olabanji Joel

I woke up two days ago with a burden in my heart to talk about the increase in number of the people becoming motivational speakers due to Banky W and Adesua's words at the program where they talked about Faith. The most important point to be emphasised which is the foundation at which they had their home laid on is God. From the video, it could be said that they don't delay speaking to God about their concerns for they are building a Godly home. Many neglected this point only to talk about the hidden problem they had. The truth is everyone has one thing or  the other they face, it differs and to be frank, the greater one is, the greater the individual's challenges.  However, the only thing needed to keep one going during these storms  is Christ.  In other words, being rich, wealthy and popular isn't enough but understanding the fact that there is a God who answers prayers and having one's life built on him is really the way to go because  He will lit one up during life journey even when one's strength seems to be diminished.  The Supreme abides with His own children  though they might not see this in the physical but with FAITH which establishes Him as the Omnipresent One, the ever present Help in trouble. 

To those becoming motivational speakers because of Banky and his Wife, be prepared to be asked questions  based on your growth and development in life. There is a season for everything, people who care will do a follow up on your life while those who don't care will also do a background check on you.  It is left for you to know those who really care. There is an adage in Yoruba which says "Ti omode ba to loko o ma n loko ni" the translation is that "When a child is old enough to have a hoe then he surely gets a one"  but when  he fails to get a hoe,  then people will start disturbing him to get one. No one will go to a single person to  ask when they will conceive neither will they ask someone  yet to gain admission when he/she will graduate nor ask a woman who is not pregnant when she will put to bed. The emphasis is people will ask questions based on your growth and development. I could remember the pressure that was on me years back when I couldn't gain admission after secondary school(story for another day) but in all, I understand that pressure comes when an individual isn't meeting up with an expected developmental state.

However, in the world we live in today, people find all means to cover up their shortcomings as they don't want to be questioned when things are not all rosy but want to be left alone. They don't even want to speak out to seek for help. Why?! People do not live as a unit but as a family especially in Nigeria that is why questions would be raised  at each developmental stages of one's life. To be candid, if things are all sweet and fine, it's only instinctual for one to be proud of self but when  things aren't going well as expected then he feels pressurised and disturbed. Way out?

Increase self esteem coupled with self actualisation will help in coping with the stress and pressure from expected achievements during growth regardless of whatever the community sees as a norm . Therefore, set a goal and work towards actualising it so as not to be pained any time when questioned for your self esteem would influence your answer born out of actualisation and love. Also, see positivity in what seems like negativity, see a reason to confide in someone to avoid depression, see a need to have an achievable set goal to avoid being disturbed by ambient pressures, see a reason to make things right with yourself when it looks bad. The most important of all is to have God, have faith in him and let your joy emanate from him, that is the only key to sustained joy. This doesn't rule out the presence of  tribulations but faith in God sustains one at the time of tribulations. When grounded  in God's love, one lives a life of positivity and growth for God is not a person of retrogression and stagnation but a  God of orderly development.

In conclusion,  I have learnt from Banky W and his wife  that they take things to God as much as they have faith in Him and also learnt even more about Him with what they have faced. Learning from this is peace. Thank you.

Olabanji Joel

A Nurse, Writer and Socialist.

Edited by:

Abimbola E. Durodoore